Picture this. You + living your ideal day. Now another scenario. You + believing you already have all it takes to live such an ideal day. Isn’t that amazing? Or even remotely exhilarating? And the truth is, whatever or however you picture out your ideal day to be—as long as it’s within the limits of reality, let’s have a touch of practicality here—like exercising in the morning, writing, doing work you love, running your own business or spending time with the people who matter most to you, it is without a doubt possible. James Clear suggests that the best way to slay goals is to imagine that you already are the kind of person capable of slaying those goals.
For some reason I am rather partial with the use of the words “bucket list” mostly because I don’t understand the concept behind using the term “bucket.” It’s kind of a pathetic reason to be partial with things, I know, but bear with me for a second here.
Generally speaking, a “bucket” is something you put things in. You fill it and contain it with all sorts of stuff.
When you unload the bucket of all of its contents, what are you left with? Nothing.
What next? Are you gonna get another bucket to fill it up once more with more stuff?
I like how Jon Westenberg calls it a “Master List.” Not just because my inner control freak can relate. A Master List is quite literally a list of all the things you want to chiefly and/ or principally do.
Mastering Your Own Destiny
I don’t believe in luck. Strictly. I believe in abilities and moments.
We are capable of change. In fact, things change everyday—every second—within and outside of our own bodies.
But in order to pursue change in the context of attaining goals, I believe I will need more than luck. I will need movement. Drive. And an overused yet still very relevant term—Passion.
We master our own destinies by charting out our own paths that lead to our ultimate goals. It’s not necessarily about being rich. It could be about building and maintaining relationships like those we already have with our friends and family.
Last year was hugely bipolar for me. It was the happiest and yet the darkest of times.
Looking back, I realize what was holding me back was the fact that I was always looking to please others.
Now, I keep in mind (and heart) that I do not need to please other people. At the end of the day, I am responsible for my own growth and I need to prioritize who I want to be—build on the identity of the kind of person I want to become—before I can give back to others.
In following Jon’s idea, I’ve created a Master List myself. Allow me to share a few of my goals with you.
- Create an online product
- Blog about tech
- Blog about my Master List (✔️heheh)
- Start a podcast
- Straighten my teeth (I’m wearing braces. 😁)
- Publish an ebook
- Grow my mailing list (💞)
- Grow my hair to waist-level (💁🏻)
- Pay for my siblings’ tuition (My family is my “why.” 👊)
- 365 Days of Blogging
- Start an online business
What’s on your Master List?
If you’re feeling like it, you can share your goals at the comments section too or tweet me @ElaineAqs. Looking and moving forward. 🙂