“Who doesn’t love a list? So write one! Top five slices of pizza in your town, ten reasons disco will never die, the three secrets to happiness — go silly or go deep, just go list-y.”
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As much as I would like to label myself a sage, I totally don’t think I ever will be. Nevertheless, there are things I’ve learned so far about being 28 that I think are hidden secrets to happiness that no one ever told you when you were 20. Of course, this list is not comprehensive by any means. Nor should it be your end-all-be-all. It’s just you, me, life learnings, and some maternal milk and hormones. And this blog post.
Secret №1: Happiness isn’t such a big deal
Dude. You gotta take yourself lightly. When you’re young, you always ask how to be happy. Especially after graduation, when you think you have it all figured out and then you discover that you can’t even adult your way into living by yourself. It’s fine. Things happen. Shit happens. A lot. And happiness isn’t such a big deal when you’re trying to deal with yourself about life, career, and love. Sometimes, you just gotta feel things and then move on. It’s not always happiness, unicorns, rainbows, glitter dust (if you’re into that stuff). There will be rain. And sometimes, for a time, it will rain everyday. But that will pass, too. So don’t fuss about happiness. You’ll find it when you do. And when you don’t, you can always just sing your favorite song. Voila!
Secret №2: Stay friends with everyone (including yourself)
Don’t doubt yourself, friend! Of all the people you should be friends with, you must be friends with yourself first! Appreciate what you have and who you are. I know, it can be hard to be friends with people who are shitty in general. And to them, I say, don’t stress! People are who they are and you will be who you are. If they can’t accept your friendship, guess what, there are 7 more billion people in the world who could be your potential friends. Make friends. It will give you a lot less headache than making enemies.
Secret №3: Keep calm and do it your way
Don’t even tell me about rules and how to follow them. Sure, laws and regulations are meant to keep people civilized but that’s about it. If you plan to do something with your life, you have to make your own rules and you must do it your way! Why? Because people are only trying to sell shit when they tell you about “fast and easy” ways to get rich or be happy or do what you love or live the life you want using their blueprints/ tactics/ strategies. Believe me. It’s all sales. You are the target. You will almost always do well with working on your own strengths and in your own way because that kind of development is personal to you. Like a tailored shirt that fits you well and complements your body type. Now that is sexy!
So, friend, to wrap this thing up… happiness isn’t such a big deal. Working your ass off isn’t all smiles and rainbows. And nobody really knows what’s best for you except you. We can compare and contrast all we want but our lives are ours and we have a responsibility to acknowledge the good things we have and learn from the bad. We have a responsibility to keep ourselves sane by doing what we love and loving what we do. Happiness will follow. Friends will follow. Love will follow. But please take care of yourself first.