Meditation is my personal stress-buster. I’m not just saying this because research also proves it but because I’ve learned this from experience. When I’m stressed and I’m able to meditate, I immediately feel the benefits.
Now I know how Rebel Tendencies find it challenging to start new habits because how can you start a habit when no one, not even yourself, can motivate you?
But the thing is: when it becomes clear to you WHY you’re meditating, it will just feel like the natural thing to do on the regular and especially when things aren’t going so well.
So here are a couple of meditation tips for rebel tendencies like me:
Meditate as regularly as possible—make it a habit
I meditate at least three times a week for 10-minute sessions using the Calm app. I don’t meditate on a specific time; it’s usually during the start of the day or at the end (before going to sleep). Sometimes, I meditate midday when my daughter is napping or the next day when I can’t find the time.
The important thing to note here is that I get to check it off of my calendar tasks because it’s THAT important for me. I don’t know where my stress levels or my emotions would go if I didn’t meditate. I’ve sort of made it a habit although I don’t do it at the same time everyday.
What kind of meditation works for you? It’s important to be able to take note of your own activities and other habits because then you can tailor them to fit your needs.
Breathe deeply during stressful situations
If meditation isn’t for you and you’ve already tried it multiple times to no avail, deep breathing also helps. Meditation is basically just mindful breathing anyway. When you find yourself in an uncomfortable or stressful situation, try to heave deep, big breaths. It will do wonders for you.
If anything, meditation has taught me that even if your attention is diverted to other things and you’re out of focus, it’s okay. You can just come back to your “breath.” And I think that’s very important. Coming back to your breathing by remembering to breathe deeply when you’re in a tight spot is very helpful. It somehow takes back the power that you’ve been giving away through stressful activities or emotions like anger or anxiety.
You don’t have to do it alone—there’s an app for that
I use an app called Calm for meditating. Other people use Headspace. And I’ve tried both, but Calm works for me. Whatever app you’re using or whether you don’t use any app at all, the most important thing is to remember to take a step back and evaluate the situation. If something is stressing you out or overwhelming you, breathe deeply and remember to go back to your breathing. And then assess what’s bugging you and what you can change. Try not to stress over things or people you have no control over.
Meditation is an easy—not to mention, *cost-effective*—way to relieve stress, increase clarity, and shake away worries. Mindfulness in the present is crucial. Everyday, there is a roller coaster of worrying about the future or thinking too much about the past. But we need to be able to see through all of these and not forget about the present. Being right where you are is the only thing you can change, not the future nor the past. And meditation teaches us that. Meditation helps us change and re-center our thoughts and actions here in the present.