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Day 43: I mustn’t let my anger control me

Mon, Jun 26, 2017 | Read in 3 minutes

Like any other emotion, anger is a feeling. It’s a feeling that, when left on its own, can destroy even the closest of relationships.

And I must not let it win.

This morning, for some reason, our dogs kept barking while I was writing this post. They were so noisy and it got me impossibly frustrated and annoyed. I wanted to wreak havoc amongst my dogs. But I thought twice, it would be hypocritical to talk about managing my emotions when I can’t apply it in real life. I took a moment to separate myself from the situation in order to put it in perspective.

I think there’s a reason why the brain is placed at the topmost part of our bodies. It’s because we need to use it first. It resides over the hands and feet, the stomach and guts, the lungs, and even the heart.

I believe in following one’s heart but I also believe in using one’s brain. Every part is necessary for human survival.

It also happens that I get angry in my line of work, too. I try as hard as I can to be objective—to make sure that I also understand the other party’s side before I can understand my own reaction. And it helps me. It works. It actually gets me through most of my work days. I don’t let the feelings of anger visit me again afterwards. I just let go and move on to the next situation.

You and I feel angry every now and then, and I think that’s healthy because it shows that some things matter to us while others don’t. It’s normal. But what we do with our anger is a different story.

To tackle feelings and emotions, we need to be aware of them first. And then we can choose how to react so that we are being the kind of person we’d want to become.

It’s not just because we believe in certain things that we act according to them but because we are certain things that we act in the same way.

We are this kind of person. We are kind. We are patient. We are strong.

Strength doesn’t mean lashing out and being cocky when things don’t happen the way we want. Strength is remaining calm even though everyone else is panicking. Strength is being silent when everybody expects you to scream. Strength is walking away from a situation because it’s of no use to explain to people whose minds cannot be changed.

Despite being shown loneliness and hatred, strength still chooses love.