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What Cardi B taught me about my own pregnancy

Mon, Apr 23, 2018 | Read in 3 minutes

“What song is stuck in your head (or on permanent rotation in your CD or MP3 player) these days? Why does it speak to you?”

Excerpt From: The Editors, “365 Days of Writing Prompts.” iBooks.

A song that keeps re-playing in my mind is Cardi B’s Bodak Yellow. I know it’s a rap/ hip hop song and pregnancy is supposed to be about listening to classical music — for the baby, of course. But I just love hip hop — the culture, the music, the artists (shout out to Nicki Minaj, too!).

We can’t just deny who we are as women just because we’re also mothers (or about to become a mother). If you like hip hop, then listen to hip hop. If you look metal, then go wild!

Yes, of course, there are some things that pregnant women should be cautious about. Pregnancy can be such a delicate phase in a woman’s life. You can say all you want about what foods to eat and not eat and what types of exercises to do everyday. But really, music is just a whole other dimension that ought to be enjoyed!

I often listen to hip hop music because of the beat and not entirely because of the lyrics. I don’t easily get offended by artists talking about “niggas and _bitches_” on their tracks simply because it’s now part of the culture. That being said, I still think the lyrics matter because, most of the time, it’s very empowering for me.

Now I’m not here to review Bodak Yellow, but I do think it’s a powerful song about making your own living and supporting your family and the people you love through the work you do. Most of the time, hip hop music is all about not caring what other people think and doing what’s most important for you. And I’m all about that shit. I’m all about that life!

In terms of my pregnancy, I am already 8 months in and just found out that Cardi B is (approximately?) 7 months in to hers. It’s just something I can relate to with her. She’s still working her ass off, doing what she loves, while growing a baby inside her. And if that’s not inspiring, I don’t fucking know what is!

Right now, I don’t need to try to be blogging everyday or establishing my foundations for a business I foresee for myself in the future. Sometimes, my hormones even get the best of me and I slack off and feel sleepy or out of breath. And that’s fine. I don’t put too much pressure on myself. After all, there are two of us in one body.

But I still want to do it. I still want to work for my future and my dreams — and now, also for my baby’s future and dreams. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with going after the life you want no matter where you are right now in the journey.

“You know what, I don’t know if it’s the strength of the fetus… but I have never feel so hungry to succeed.”

— Cardi B

So when Cardi B said in an interview that her growing “fetus” made her hungrier for success, that really nailed it for me. This was my girl! That was the kind of mindset I needed right now and not some silly people telling me to take it slow when I’m just fine with how fast things are.

I guess the important takeaway is to always be aware of yourself and your body. To not try to stretch your limits when you’re pregnant or when you have a very delicate health situation. But also to go after your goals as much as you can, because how else would you rather spend your time?

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