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Yes and You Still Get To Be Kind

Sat, May 29, 2021 | Read in 3 minutes

Kindness is key.

This is something I have been thinking about all week this week.

I have been searching within, so to speak, for the people I am called to help and support in this lifetime.

I know, I know. That sounds a bit woo-woo.

But yes, I have done some soul searching these past few days (probably, months now).

I found that my favorite core value is kindness.

Finding the goodness in others.

Sensitivity towards what someone has gone through and might still be going through.

I was that person, too.

Who am I kidding, I still am.

Yes, I sometimes act in ways that are not aligned with the person I want to become.

Yes, I continue to get feelings of victimhood because of the perceived sacrifices I had to go through as an adolescent.

And it all doesn’t have to define me.

And I still get to heal from it, even if it takes forever.

And I still get to move forward.

When I say I am a kind person, I’m not saying I’m perfect.

There have been many times as well that I’ve been cruel and harsh and snappy and unjust towards others.

What I’m trying to share is far deeper than the wounds that have made me.

It’s almost as if I am extending the kindness to myself when I talk about how mean I’ve been. And I am healing from this.

And this is such a free-ing concept:

YES, you’ve been through so much AND…

You can still be kind.

YES, you are tired of taking care of others and putting their needs first. AND…

You still get to take care of you.

YES, sometimes work can get tiring and you slack off with your responsibilities sometimes. AND…

You can still go after and pursue and ENJOY your dream life and career/s.

YES, you have been, at times, mean and cruel and hateful and even vengeful in the past. AND…

You are still capable of love and forgiveness and understanding and kindness.

I have a feeling that my kindness and sensitivity is my strength.

I have a feeling that the way I feel for others helps me heal, too.

And healing isn’t always words and affirmations. Healing is also consciously feeling gratitude and intentionally loving others and whole-heartedly letting joy flow freely and lovingly in every fiber of your being and your life.

Yes, you’ve been through so many things that didn’t serve you.

AND you get to let go of those things and create space for yourself where there is safety, kindness, and radical acceptance.